So in the last blog post, I threw at you that tough pill to swallow called ACCEPTANCE. We can’t change our family members but this holiday season we can change ourselves to better handle the fuckery (sorry for the language but I just love that word).
The first step to that change is accepting our family for who they are. The second part of that change calls on us to really own our truths.
What is something about you that no one can take away?
What do you believe to be true about yourself?
What do you love about yourself?
Jot down the 10 things you love most about yourself.
There’s no time for judgment in this exercise. Toss that out the window; circle of trust, here. This is a great journaling exercise, by the way.
I want you to go into this holiday season full of family time and unsolicited opinions armed with your truth! So when comments are made that hurt IMMEDIATELY turn to what you know to be true for you. Hold onto this tightly. Don’t even let your family’s comments touch you.
Smile and walk way.
Or don’t smile, whatever works for you.
You know the comments are coming. You have a choice. You always have a choice. You can either wear those comments like a heavy robe that weighs you down or you can shake ‘em off as insignificant and ridiculous. You don’t have to own their comments as your truth.
This was crucial for me when I learned this next bit.
The negative comments and behavior are more of a reflection of them. These comments really show you what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with. Their comments are a direct reflection of where THEY are, it has nothing to do with YOU.
Let that soak in and take root.
So in preparation for this wonderful time of year, be the change you need to live peacefully. Don’t spend your time stressed out worrying about what might be said, how they acted last time, wishing they would change. Instead, focus on accepting them for who they are and arming yourself with your personal truths.